Marital Dome is the only home to The Orgasm, in the absence of which, ones search for that beautiful, and only seemingly elusive, experience called conjugal bliss remains a futile wanderlust. One passes through his/her journey on mother earth wondering if it ever existed or if he/she was made for it.
If the concept of reincarnation is to be believed, (I do), no surprise we have today so many male desires caged in female bodies and vice versa.
Is it so complex? Yes, it seemed so to me too initially. Is it easy? Yes too, as once accomplished, the biggest disappointment was, it being the simplest.
Organic, as the name suggests, includes only the nature friendly practices. Likewise, only an unadulterated (by consumption of intoxicants, drugs, alcohol, oral contraceptive and even modern day wonder drugs etc.) married hetero couple is capable of achieving it. It's possible in marriage only.
An intimate session is an organic one where the nether zones interact, strictly, with each other only and nothing else is allowed an access over there. And the outcome is an absolute accomplishment to both.
No gay has seen that as it wouldn't be easy for one to remain so after that. Mr. Sigmund Freud rightly says so
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/
Commencement age for such adventures today to be approx. 12-14 years, could a boy that age be told/taught to discern his partners' requirement? Impossible; more being unethical than illegal. What if some of such children grow up as adults averse to the whole idea ?; One out of disappointment and embarrassment caused by such inadvertently failed attempts and the other one being situated at the receiving end of such failed attempts, under no obligation to keep obliging despite one's own discomfiture. Seems weird? yes, it may, but only the Dome called Matrimony ensures that obligation to continue and later to the desired accomplishment.
PATRIARCHAL! I am ready to run the risk of being labelled one, till this post is complete.
Appears anti-feminist? Yes but it is not. Like all other greatly applauded historical concepts and strategies that were also 'executed as superbly', both in letter and in SPIRIT, the Bliss is bound to appear under the Marital Dome as an obedient, grateful companion, sooner or later. However, the spirit part in the marriage is loosing steam fast, resulting in our children groping in the dark today. We need to be with them as they need us.
What was envisaged by the Wise with the establishment of the Institution called marriage?
Slavery or subjugation of female folks was definitely not one. My wife once told me that the moment "Saptapadi" (Seven revolutions around the Holy Fire during a Hindu marriage ceremony) completes, something deep down the psychic of the girl(bride) is changed forever.
Something lies there to be pondered over. The very air of what could have resulted in an unpredictable bloodshed, is not only approved, but also proposed through the symbolic ritual of "Kanyadaan" by the powers that be of the clan. Kanyadaan is a ritual wherein the hand of the bride is literally placed in the hand of groom. Quite akin to the permission granted to groom by the Church authority that he could now kiss the bride. Both of them were not supposed to have touched a member of opposite sex in similar fashion so far. However, these rituals may, today, be mere that; rituals.
No eye-brow raising friends as no regression to our past is intended here. But we could try and see as to why such imprisonment of senses was desired to be maintained until and unless a person passes through the Marital Dome. A glance at the freedom allowed to undertake the otherwise most denounced and tabooed subject after the socially acceptable ceremony could be:-
Sex in marriage only, Wife to be submissive to her husband, A good wife must present herself, even before cleaning her hands of the dough, if her husband wishes so, Wife to be an equal partner in all of her husbands' holy deeds, getting an offspring sooner than later... List is endless and the quotes are almost similar in all the religious and social preaching on marriage.
Apparently, only apparently, all these instructions to be followed by a wife may seemingly cause subjugation, but was that the purpose? If it were so, the contradictory instructions would not exist, but they do. Seemingly, the subjugation part has been emphasised upon especially on conjugal aspects pertaining to women. Was a sense of persecution and exploitation active behind such mandates?
Does a sense of persecution, exploitation and even subjugation exist behind the deliberate and well researched effects and after effects caused by the Pink Pill, generally called Female Viagra? Or the marital mandate was a well thought about and considerate prescript to ensure fulfillment of mutual conjugal expectations/ requirements; only to be applied within the four-walls of bedroom and not at all outside of it. Did, unfortunately, the menfolk not only missed on, or deliberately ignored the required application of the prescript and worst, started applying the same in every other aspect of women's lives. Hence, the blunder. Wasn't the prescript targeted at weakening the otherwise invincible psychic conditioning buildup in the bride till she gets married and also not to over indulge even after that And, to be at ease; just be, during those moments. The women not to even expect pleasure. Did it help? YES. I know. If it doesn't, nothing will.
Man is not the owner of his wife and in fact a woman has certain rights upon her husband, Wife is an equal partner to the husband and she is to be respected and honoured equally.
Those who have attended the Saptapadi, especially in a village set up, would be well aware of the blatant and explicit nature of folklore sung by the women of bride's family even till recently. The choicest of slangs, methods of love making, erotic imaginations on pre and post first night after marriage, attitudes and gestures of the women of groom's family and what not. A whole encyclopedia on Kama Shastra splashed through melodies during those 4-5 hours. Some naive youngs from the groom's side even took strong objections on hearing all that 'rubbish' but the elders consoled and controlled them telling, "All the songs sung in the marriage are not true," (Byah Ke Saare Geet Sache Nahi Hote). Ours was such a society that took it only as just another aspect of life and at the same time, warned against over indulgence in any field including marital life. We are forgetting it all fast.
If the concept of reincarnation is to be believed, (I do), no surprise we have today so many male desires caged in female bodies and vice versa.
Is it so complex? Yes, it seemed so to me too initially. Is it easy? Yes too, as once accomplished, the biggest disappointment was, it being the simplest.
Organic, as the name suggests, includes only the nature friendly practices. Likewise, only an unadulterated (by consumption of intoxicants, drugs, alcohol, oral contraceptive and even modern day wonder drugs etc.) married hetero couple is capable of achieving it. It's possible in marriage only.
An intimate session is an organic one where the nether zones interact, strictly, with each other only and nothing else is allowed an access over there. And the outcome is an absolute accomplishment to both.
No gay has seen that as it wouldn't be easy for one to remain so after that. Mr. Sigmund Freud rightly says so
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/
Commencement age for such adventures today to be approx. 12-14 years, could a boy that age be told/taught to discern his partners' requirement? Impossible; more being unethical than illegal. What if some of such children grow up as adults averse to the whole idea ?; One out of disappointment and embarrassment caused by such inadvertently failed attempts and the other one being situated at the receiving end of such failed attempts, under no obligation to keep obliging despite one's own discomfiture. Seems weird? yes, it may, but only the Dome called Matrimony ensures that obligation to continue and later to the desired accomplishment.
PATRIARCHAL! I am ready to run the risk of being labelled one, till this post is complete.
Appears anti-feminist? Yes but it is not. Like all other greatly applauded historical concepts and strategies that were also 'executed as superbly', both in letter and in SPIRIT, the Bliss is bound to appear under the Marital Dome as an obedient, grateful companion, sooner or later. However, the spirit part in the marriage is loosing steam fast, resulting in our children groping in the dark today. We need to be with them as they need us.
What was envisaged by the Wise with the establishment of the Institution called marriage?
Slavery or subjugation of female folks was definitely not one. My wife once told me that the moment "Saptapadi" (Seven revolutions around the Holy Fire during a Hindu marriage ceremony) completes, something deep down the psychic of the girl(bride) is changed forever.
Something lies there to be pondered over. The very air of what could have resulted in an unpredictable bloodshed, is not only approved, but also proposed through the symbolic ritual of "Kanyadaan" by the powers that be of the clan. Kanyadaan is a ritual wherein the hand of the bride is literally placed in the hand of groom. Quite akin to the permission granted to groom by the Church authority that he could now kiss the bride. Both of them were not supposed to have touched a member of opposite sex in similar fashion so far. However, these rituals may, today, be mere that; rituals.
No eye-brow raising friends as no regression to our past is intended here. But we could try and see as to why such imprisonment of senses was desired to be maintained until and unless a person passes through the Marital Dome. A glance at the freedom allowed to undertake the otherwise most denounced and tabooed subject after the socially acceptable ceremony could be:-
Sex in marriage only, Wife to be submissive to her husband, A good wife must present herself, even before cleaning her hands of the dough, if her husband wishes so, Wife to be an equal partner in all of her husbands' holy deeds, getting an offspring sooner than later... List is endless and the quotes are almost similar in all the religious and social preaching on marriage.
Apparently, only apparently, all these instructions to be followed by a wife may seemingly cause subjugation, but was that the purpose? If it were so, the contradictory instructions would not exist, but they do. Seemingly, the subjugation part has been emphasised upon especially on conjugal aspects pertaining to women. Was a sense of persecution and exploitation active behind such mandates?
Does a sense of persecution, exploitation and even subjugation exist behind the deliberate and well researched effects and after effects caused by the Pink Pill, generally called Female Viagra? Or the marital mandate was a well thought about and considerate prescript to ensure fulfillment of mutual conjugal expectations/ requirements; only to be applied within the four-walls of bedroom and not at all outside of it. Did, unfortunately, the menfolk not only missed on, or deliberately ignored the required application of the prescript and worst, started applying the same in every other aspect of women's lives. Hence, the blunder. Wasn't the prescript targeted at weakening the otherwise invincible psychic conditioning buildup in the bride till she gets married and also not to over indulge even after that And, to be at ease; just be, during those moments. The women not to even expect pleasure. Did it help? YES. I know. If it doesn't, nothing will.
Man is not the owner of his wife and in fact a woman has certain rights upon her husband, Wife is an equal partner to the husband and she is to be respected and honoured equally.
Those who have attended the Saptapadi, especially in a village set up, would be well aware of the blatant and explicit nature of folklore sung by the women of bride's family even till recently. The choicest of slangs, methods of love making, erotic imaginations on pre and post first night after marriage, attitudes and gestures of the women of groom's family and what not. A whole encyclopedia on Kama Shastra splashed through melodies during those 4-5 hours. Some naive youngs from the groom's side even took strong objections on hearing all that 'rubbish' but the elders consoled and controlled them telling, "All the songs sung in the marriage are not true," (Byah Ke Saare Geet Sache Nahi Hote). Ours was such a society that took it only as just another aspect of life and at the same time, warned against over indulgence in any field including marital life. We are forgetting it all fast.
Undoubtedly, marriage is one of the biggest devices ever conceived that separate humans from animals.
VinodSharmaBansi
#NeitherHomophobeNorAlly.
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#NeitherHomophobeNorAlly.
