Its this post in Huff Post that prompted me today to express what's whirling in my mind for weeks:-
http://www.huffingtonpost.in/2017/04/17/indian-women-recall-the-first-advice-they-were-given-against-h_a_22042820/?utm_medium=Keywee&utm_source=FB&utm_campaign=indian-women-recall-the-first-advice-they-were-given-against&kwp_0=391441&kwp_4=1445186&kwp_1=633610
I read it in the book named Energy, can't recall the name of author at the moment :-
"Chryssa Dobson, a writer for Cosmopolitan Magazine makes a terrific case for sxx with love as opposed to a different lover every day; Really good sxx comes only when you grow sensitive enough to another person to know what pleases him or her both in and out of bed...a skill hardly likely to develop overnight. You can't learn to play a musical instrument in a day; what horror to imagine trying to learn a different musical instrument each afternoon.
So when you're living with or around someone you truly love, sxx is a beautiful way to express that love."
I can't believe otherwise but that there must be a woman, or women, behind the concept of and subsequently the establishment of the institution called Marriage. As from pleasure point of view, men, apparently, don't require that. However, it's not the women only who need it. To what pinnacle the union of a couple is capable of taking them. Is mere attaining the stage of puberty the only eligibility required? Does something like impropriety/propriety or timeliness/untimeliness on the aspect even exist?
Yes, it does. However, the moment a person decides to be a Gay, he/she shuts on him/herself the door that could have introduced them to the extreme possibility the human body is capable of. As such, no Gay has and also, could ever witness that beautiful Divine Bliss that arises out of the Divine Union of Masculine and Feminine Energies.
It's the human race that has acknowledged the existence of Fem O, which exists beyond the compulsive, seasonal desire for mating present in other animals. Besides, it has also been separated from the concept of reproduction. Attempts have been made even to curb the reproductive aspect of human mating through different inventions, in order to keep only the fun part intact.
It's like deliberately maiming an athlete first and then asking her to deliver an Olympic performance. Without considering the fact that being able to reproduce is an important sign of general well being of the respective system/organ. Every attempt has been made to disable this system from reproduction point of view, the very purpose it's there for, so as to exploit only its capacity of creating those bliss waves. Ridiculously, a tiny part, the tip of iceberg attached to it, has been singled out for the purpose at the cost of the whole unit, leaving it hardly alive. Only because it served the Male scheme of things and didn't disturb their interest of smooth sailing.
Even that has not delivered as the tip of iceberg has nothing to do with the gender of its entertainer. Propagating it to be the sole facilitator in attaining the desired outcome has only distracted our race from what could and should have been. Consequences of the apathy are now not only more than visible, but are also hitting the fences. It has boomeranged, and so satirically. The flow of the river of life is visibly taking an unimaginable turn; deviations are pushing to be considered as norms. Use of Weeds for entertainment purposes being advocated and 'sympathetically' considered as well, in different corners of the Globe. Though, shyly, the presence of elephant in the room is being acknowledged but the remedies proposed and pondered over still convey the same vision that has created the imbroglio faced by humanity today. Unfortunately, still, the thrust is on 'stay' rather than 'fruition', something the former can't live without and also the thing not present anywhere else except Marriage. After all, it's the Marriage that separates humans from animals.
From that aspect, humans are unhardened, mere humans only in marriage. Outside of that, howsoever and whatsoever they may pretend to be, they remain anything but mature, uninhibited and reciprocating partners. What is meant here by uninhibited and reciprocating is the most deep, instinctive and even intuitive mind-body reflections that take place on its' own at opportune moments. These are otherwise either deliberately curbed or they don't appear at all. To learn to ride those waves is something that is possible in marriage only.
In societies where consumption of contraceptives starts even before onset of puberty, how could the affected members dream of reaching the ultimate human potential in a mating session. They are more armed and toughened, even numbed than naturally available to the possibility. Just imagine the plight of a 30 years old mother of a 15 year old child, especially a girl in such circumstances. Such a physiologically unripe adolescent girl could only get pregnant, accidentally. Expecting her to be even aware of the ultimate possibility would just be too much to think of. Ditto stands true to such boys. Besides, even if all else is okay, would the states of minds of a couple of an appropriate age, that has not passed through the Marital Dome, be matching to those of the couple that has undertaken a journey through the Marital Dome. Not a bit.
How many gay girls would be there who have never applied or consumed one or the other form of contraception on their person at least once in their lifetime. The earlier it took place, the worse.
Even those who have adopted the righteous path, meet under the third party intervention that has shackled the most relied upon and delicate component, the uterus, involved in the negotiation. Though that inevitable apprehension of illegitimacy is not looming around over there, yet, the respondent shall be hard pressed under its' own man made burdens. Few would oppose the notion that mating is a conversation between the Seed and the Womb. All else are only the catalysts whose presence is required to facilitate that conversation towards it's meaningful conclusion. One of which we crave to retain and other one we wish to get rid of, or at least to control.
Here lies the catch. As we have accurately identified and separated the reproductive and fun parts of the phenomenon, what is needed is to accomplish the latter without denting the former. That is inevitable because if the former is debilitated, the best version of the latter is not built up. Both of them are inseparable and any attempt to forcibly suppress one results in adverse effects on the other. It can only be dodged; at the last moment. It's not backing out but staying neutral; not feeding the uninvited. I've seen men boasting with pride of their hand and tongue dexterity. They perhaps aren't even aware of their specific endowment. Perhaps, due to the invincible propagation in favour of unique individual physiology has almost pushed to oblivion the very thought of uniformity of human physiology. The issue still being a closeted one, most of them have accepted themselves more as lacking in physiology than being as adequate as anybody else is. The notion that almost all of us are similar may be correct but it is more correct that the mindful application of the available logistics has always made the difference throughout the history of mankind. Initially, I too had faced all those symptoms that could make one quit, at the cost of the other, due to that 'unique physiology'. What made me believe otherwise was the book named 'From Sex to Super Consciousness'. Not agreeing with everything it said but the intimation that if one could sustain himself for three hours and forty eight minutes, he could attain that Blissful Samadhi. However, being able to reach only hardly one fourth of it, not often, it made me resolute that even if a single person in the history of mankind may have done that, I too can. However, I later realized that it can not take place with a 'maimed' negotiator. To make a conversation successful, two finely functional pairs of Receiver and Transmitter are inevitably required.
The very news of the possibility compelled me to exhaust my own faculties first before succumbing to the notion of 'individual physiology'. During the process, almost all those ridiculous tricks that flood the sources of information today, also surfaced and vanished. I would write about them later somewhere. By His Grace, the most beautiful thing that happened is banishment of contraceptives, and ultimate accomplishment. After all, what would one do with one's arsenal after that of his opponent has exhausted? Along came absence of PMS, uterine irregularities and other common gynecological complications; a healthy organism does not complain.
Don't know how would I be seen afterwards. What would my partner's response be? Also not sure what made me share this more; (to avoid) the attempts to extract it secretly, unbeknownst even to me, or the gross ignorance of the people in relevant authority I came across. Most probably, the strange turn that the river of life has taken, with it's roaring advancement towards our children, may have caused it.
Not everything done by a man on a woman deserve to be called hetero. It's the divine union where nether zones interact, strictly, with each other only. Nothing else is allowed an access over there.
It's possible only under the Marital Dome as the partners, especially the woman, can dare be unarmed, off-guard, at her most vulnerable self, raw and receptive, only in marriage. Vulnerability is Strength; Normal is Best. In any case, one can not fake these virtues on oneself.
Why should men care about that?
Nature can never be deceived, and whenever it is shortchanged, it replies in its' own unique manner.
TO BE CONTINUED......
